In a time when nothing is more certain than change, the commitment of two people to one another has become difficult and rare. Yet, by its scarcity, the beauty and value of this exchange have only been enhanced.
~Robert Sexton~
Marriage is truly a beautiful thing. Easy? Definitely not. Fun? Not always, but often. Worth it? Every minute! However, in today's culture marriage has gotten a bad rap. Married couples in movies and on television are often depicted as miserable and mutually disrespectful. In break rooms across the world one can find co-workers engaging in ritual "spouse bashing." And more and more people have simply stopped believing that marriage is of any value at all.
Being a newlywed myself, I've honestly been a little discouraged by the negative connotation marriage is receiving. Until I found a company that's doing something about it!
That company is From*me Tees! You can get to their website by clicking on that link, or the button in my sidebar. Below is a snippet from the "About Us" section of their website.
"From*me Tees was started by a married couple who knows what it is to work through hard stuff and yet stay together and stay committed through it all. One of the great and wonderful mysteries of life is that loving each other in action--what we do and say--produces romance. Everything in our culture today teaches the opposite, that romance turns into love, but nothing could be further from the truth. Love is a choice and we decide how we're going to treat each other in the good and in the not-so-good times. What a hope-giving reality that a strong relationship can be built, simply by changing how we interact with our spouse.
Marriage was created to be a blessing and a little kindness and respect goes a long way. Accept the fact that your spouse isn't perfect and then start taking notice of all the good things they bring to the table! Pretty soon you can train your mind to be grateful for who they are as opposed to feeling disappointed about who they are not. When you allow yourself to believe that your spouse rocks, you will free yourself from the downward spiral of self-pity, disappointment, and even dispair. The key is to change yourself! And you'll be surprised at the positive affect it has on the one you choose to love...and you!" source
I was so excited and inspired when I found their website (thank you An Island Life) and read their mission statement! This is exactly what I've been looking for and trying to create in my marriage! Marriage should be fun and happy and wonderful, and we should look at it in a positive light! (That being said, I am fully aware and willing to put in the work and commitment it takes to create a lasting marriage, but that doesn't have to be a drudge or a chore, either!) And I decided that I am going to join them in putting marriage in a positive light! I want my husband to feel loved and respected by me, and I want to encourage others in this as well!
Thus ~ "my husband rocks" Fridays ~ is born!
Every Friday, I post a story, or photo, or quote about how and why my husband rocks! on my main blog page the great adventure. And I invite you to do the same!
"No husband is perfect and it doesn’t really matter. What matters is how I set myself up to think about him. If I focus on his failures, his annoyances, or ways in which I’ve felt hurt by him, then I will interact with him as a hurt and frustrated and disappointed wife. That makes for miserable living for me and my husband and those around us. But if I focus on his strengths, his potential, and the ways in which I feel blessed by him, then I will interact with him as a forgiving, blessed, and contented wife. And there’s no greater need a man has than to feel respected by his wife. If he feels like all he does is hurt, disappoint, and frustrate, then the same atmosphere and the same actions will be perpetuated. But if he feels that his wife can be happy and responsive regardless of his shortcomings, he feels respected and empowered. Then a positive atmosphere is perpetuated and actions, once destructive, can improve in an environment that is rich for
cultivation and growth into deepened respect and intimacy." (from the From*me Tees Mission Reflection)
"No husband is perfect and it doesn’t really matter. What matters is how I set myself up to think about him. If I focus on his failures, his annoyances, or ways in which I’ve felt hurt by him, then I will interact with him as a hurt and frustrated and disappointed wife. That makes for miserable living for me and my husband and those around us. But if I focus on his strengths, his potential, and the ways in which I feel blessed by him, then I will interact with him as a forgiving, blessed, and contented wife. And there’s no greater need a man has than to feel respected by his wife. If he feels like all he does is hurt, disappoint, and frustrate, then the same atmosphere and the same actions will be perpetuated. But if he feels that his wife can be happy and responsive regardless of his shortcomings, he feels respected and empowered. Then a positive atmosphere is perpetuated and actions, once destructive, can improve in an environment that is rich for
cultivation and growth into deepened respect and intimacy." (from the From*me Tees Mission Reflection)
If you'd like to join me in ~"my husband rocks" Fridays~ every Friday, write a post proclaiming to the world why your husband (or wife, or husband-to-be, or wife-to-be) ROCKS!, then come back here and comment with the permalink to your post, and I will add you the ~My Husband Rocks! ~ blogroll!
And as an added bonus . . . . if you make a From*me Tees purchase (of at least two items) on Fridays as part of this "carnival," From*me Tees has generously offered to refund your shipping charges if you mention my blog and the "my husband rocks Fridays carnival" during checkout at the "how did you hear about us" reply link!
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